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So,  it seemed relevant to post about relationships since Valentine's was this week. I found this quiz on Tumblr and of course I dragged it over here! ... these always get a little bit too close for comfort.  

A: Who do you like and Why?

NA... and because. 

B: Have you ever been in love? If yes, how many times, and how do you know it was love?

I've been victim to the illusion of love; but it's always been skinny.

C: Longest relationship you've ever been in, and why did it end?

Lordy, I don't know. 10 months, or 10 years. Both ended because it wasn't right.

D: Have you ever changed for someone, if yes, how?

I cleaned up my life to be the good girl that he deserved; he went bad.

E: Pretend I'm you ex, what do you want to say to me?

You're probably only still talking to me because there is a part of you that feels a bit more secure knowing I'm here. You don't particularly like me even, but you need me. How do I know this? Because that's why I'm still here. We are the same.

F: Have you ever been cheated on?

Yep, most likely. I can't think of a specific time but have no doubt that it's happened.

G: Have you ever cheated?

Admittedly, yes. Though I was more faithful to my ex and our relationship than any other relationship before, EVER.

H: Would you date someone who's known for cheating, if yes why?

Not if they are known for it but if it is not a defining quality then I'd give them my trust. I've cheated, and I've been faithful. I personally know that sometimes you meet someone who is so precious to you that they are worth totally committing yourself to.

I: What's the most important part of a relationship?

God. He is the best thing we could have in common, the strongest, unchanging, stable and perfect source of love-giving unity that any relationship needs. He has all of the qualities that neither partner has or that are missing. Important relational qualities: balance, intimacy = commitment, respect, trust, willingness to bend, and adventure (lot's of adventure).

J: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

Serious. Though that never happens.

K: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?

Not particularly. If there are red flags now then there will be red flags when you return to the relationship. Besides, you don't take "breaks" when you're married so why bring that mentality into your pre-marriage relationship?

L: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

That's a good question. What is hooking up anyways?

M: What's one thing you regret saying or not saying, doing or not doing in a previous relationship?

Not waiting longer to have sex until it was with some one who loved me back.

N: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

When they are married.

O: Do you believe in the phrase, "Age is just a number?" Why or why not?

Mostly. I think it's important to be aware of emotional/physical/life development of your partnership. It's different for a 5 year gap between 30 & 35, and 20 and 15.

P: What about "Love at first sight"? Why or why not?

I'm not convinced that you can love someone instantaneously. Love isn't just a feeling (and it's not based solely on attraction) it's doing what's best for someone. It's nurtured over time as commitment and intimacy develop beyond the point of initial interest. But, I'm intrigued by the idea that my future husband may one day look at me and immediately know that I was made for him.

Q: Turn on's?

Blah, don't wanna post about these.

R: Turn off's?

Or these.

S: What do you consider a deal breaker?

If he isn't a believer in God. And if that belief isn't affecting his life. Though you could call me a hypocrite because I often (almost always) compromise on this one.

T: How do you know it's time to end a relationship?

You just know.

U: Are you currently in a relationship? If yes, for how long? If no, how long have you been single?

No. Almost 2 months or two years depending on how you look at it. Maybe even longer.

V: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

Yes, I do.

W: Do you think people should date their friends?

There isn't a good answer for this; though if some of my male-friends wanted to treat me to a date with them then I wouldn't deny them. But I also know that more than likely it wouldn't be kindled into a romantic relationship.

X: How many relationships have you had?

I have no way to know. 3 significant ones.

Y: Do you think love can last forever?

There is a love that last's forever and it's unchanging: God's love.

Z: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

Yes. There's a collection of 66 books about it called the Bible.

1: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?

It would depend on their motivation and if it was just because they weren't what they expect versus if they see very real, red flags that I am oblivious to.

2: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

None of these guys are going to be worth 2 heartbeats.

3: Do you think long distance relationships can work? Why or why

Yes, but not for me. Not right now, anyways. I'm still rehabilitating from my wandering heart.

             on a personal note:             

I'm in Wisconsin for the weekend! I'll come back with pictures I'm sure! Miss you all, lovelies!